A Hint of Randomness

A few little tidbits that I am picking up here and there lately, my own version pearls of wisdom, so I thought why not share.

Pearl 1: Be yourself. It seems that people in general really respond and place a value on independence and self confidence. I think at least in my perspective this is due in large part because people struggle with being and expressing themselves as they are, making it that much more unique if you are able to do so. Besides conformity sucks. Avoid trying to look good it usually leads to being a douche.

Pearl 2: Feedback. The four stages of effective feedback. The facts, the story made up, the feeling behind the story, and your intention behind giving the feedback. Simply separate the facts from what you believe actually happened. Then share exactly how it impacts you and in what way. Lastly what you hope to convey and gain by giving this feedback. And always remember to end it with a Thank You!

Pearl 3: Its always the case that with family or business comes complexity. This is often compounded further when the two mix. I don't have any real solutions to mixing the two (I challenge anyone who claims they do) but what I do know is that while more often than not intentions are good, it usually leads to a cluster fuck of emotions. I say compartmentalize. It's probably a cold approach but typically logic prevails over emotions which are susceptible to irrationality. Clearly define expectation of all involved and manage those expectations. Disappointment is the result of having any expectation at all.

Pearl 4: Leadership is when one can compel a group to work in a coordinated manner to successfully achieve an objective (the leaders vision). Dictatorship is when one divides to conquer in order to achieve a fragmented and un-fulfilling end.

Pearl 5: There is huge difference between paper wealth and real wealth. Paper wealth can dissappear real quick. Cash in while the gettin' is good and invest in the latter.

Now for a divine 5 minutes that is the Song of the Day Evol Intent-Middle of the Night

A Quarter Past Wonderful

A little shift in focus today. Organizational Behavior or better yet leadership. It seems that we have a slight mutiny on our hands. A lot of discontent in the office as to what is happening with everyone's attitude about their jobs and how we feel in particular to our esteemed leader.

The main issues are micromanagement, work life 'fit', and divisiveness that is now apparent as a result of lack of communication and disinformation, as oddly enough it seems to be perpetuated from the top of the organization. As all this becomes clear to everyone in the boss' absence (due to communication resulting in Camaraderie in the new realization we all have similar sentiments towards our jobs); I realize how vital it is to be an efficient leader who has faith and belief in the abilities that one surrounds themselves with. "Hold everyone as capable." There are some very valuable things to learn from this. A wise friend recently told me that micromanagement is often due to incompetence or a lack of confidence in oneself and those around you. I hope that if i do exhibit any of these traits I at least have the self awareness to realize this.

All this leads to a small but important point, albeit a cliche. Life is short. Do what makes you happy. There really is no point in wasting time with the status-quo waiting for the world to change instead take the more difficult direct route and think things through put action behind reasonable logic and exact the change on the world. Being in a position of uncertainty, a feeling or fear, and even uncomfortablness is not necessarily a bad thing. Instead use it as a platform for growth and direct all your energy towards positive endevours.

Song of the Day: Oren Lavie-Her Morning Elegance